If you caught my post the other day, you’ll know this, confidence isn’t about being the loudest voice in the room, or power-dressing like you’re Jacinda on campaign trail.

What keeps us stuck isn’t a lack of talent, it’s buying into the myths. Even if you’re nailing it at work, if you’re carrying these myths, you’ll feel like you’re failing. And, that’s why we’ve got to bust them wide open.

1. “Confident women are born that way.”

Nope. Confidence is learned, practiced, and sometimes faked ‘til it’s baked. Think of it like making hokey pokey, you don’t just wake up with crunchy golden goodness. Even if some people look naturally confident, they weren’t born that way. And, that’s how you know it’s possible for you too.

2. “Confidence = extroversion.”

Tell that to the quiet achiever who nails the project while everyone else is still arguing over fonts. Confidence is about being steady in who you are, not the decibels of your voice. Even if you’re an introvert, you can still be rock solid in yourself. And, that’s why confidence is for everyone.

3. “Once I feel confident, then I’ll take the leap.”

Backwards. It’s taking the leap that builds confidence. Waiting for the magical confidence fairy is like waiting for All Blacks tickets to go on sale and not sell out in 2 minutes. Even if you’re terrified, you’ve got to move. And, that’s how confidence grows.

4. “If I’m confident, everyone will like me.”

Sorry, nope. Some people will still get the hump. But here’s the kicker, they’d judge you whether you’re hiding in the corner or standing centre stage. Even if you bend yourself into a pretzel trying to please everyone, someone will still moan. And, that’s why you may as well live your best life.

👉 If you’ve been nodding along to these myths, you’re not alone. The good news, they’re totally shiftable. That’s what we unpack, rewire, and rebuild inside Fearful to Fabulous.

​Your new confidence story is waiting, so grab it here.